[HELP] BFBC2 MP game connection

Hello, a while back I posted that I couldn't connect to an MP game... well, I am seeing all these people saying "I can get the map loaded in 5 seconds flat" well... here are my specs:

Computer: Dell Inspiron 1545 laptop
Processor: Intel Pentium CPU T3400 @ 2.16GHz (2 CPUs), ~2.2GHz
RAM (Random Acess Memory): 3 GB
Total Hard Drive space left: 105 GB
OS: Windows 7 32-bit Enterprise Edition (don't ask)
Graphics Card: ATI (up-to-date)

and here is my C:/Program Files/User/****/My Documents/BFBC2/settings.ini
[WindowSettings]
Width=1360
Height=768
Fullscreen=false
RefreshRate=60
VSync=false
[Sound]
Quality=low
VoipEnable=true
SpeakerCount=0
[Graphics]
Effects=low
Soldiers=low
Vehicles=low
Overgrowth=low
Undergrowth=low
StaticObjects=low
Terrain=low
Shadows=low
Bloom=false
HSAO=false
MSAA=0
Water=low
MainQuality=low
Texture=low
DxVersion=11
Aniso=0
Detail=low
FOV=90
RenderAheadLimit=2

on DxVersion=11 people say to put to 9 but it makes my game crash in loading screen. Would someone please tell me what I can do to actually get in a game? I can't return the game to GameStop so...help please... And yes, I know I don't have a gaming computer but it handled Gmod so it should be able to handle BC2.