Addiction to consumerism

I'm having the exact same problem...
No motivation to do anything except working and smoking weed.
Trying to quit smoking weed but those crazy fucking dreams who makes every night awful makes me start smoking again.

I don't like the job I currently do, and the country I'm living in. That's why I need to learn another language to be able to leave my country, and to find another job.
But I need to dedicate a lot of time and effort into learning, and as it's not really easy/funny, I tend to do something else.

And I don't think it will be ever possible to find a job that feels like a passion. A job is just a way of getting money, to spend it on something you like.
I've wondered for years what would the perfect job be to me, but I've never found it. Even something I like will become boring if done 8h a day, for a boss...

You need to have a set goal in mind or you'll have trouble achieving what you want- in this case, productivity. Think in the long-run, how and why this will affect you positively or negatively.

You got a great point and you are not alone, i also have this issue, and there are many more. finding something productive is also something i struggle with, i haven't found a solution... yet. but i guess when more time goes by we'll eventually find something or maybe someone to spend time on and to look forward. My dad always said: Positive people attract positive situations/opportunities/people. If your doors are closed then you have to open them and keep them open.

You know that realizing all this stuff it's already an achievement! But you know that first you work for someone, and then people work for you. So, you'll get the job you like, but you need more patience.

Hey,

From where I come from, there are no such think as getting higher in society by working hard (the way it is in the US I guess).
Here, you work hard, you end up burned out, and you will never get a raise or more responsabilities. The only way is to create your own company.
Here, people are like slaves. They waste their time, their life, for some money. I leave my home at 7 am in the morning, and come back at almost 8 pm for an average salary, doing a difficult and stressful work that required a university degree. And some people have a worst situation than mine.

Now, here's the update with some good news since my post from May 2020:
We're in mid september, and I got rid of my gaming computer to avoid distractions and bought a good laptop for more freedom.
I didn't have the opportunity to travel because of pandemics, but I've used all my weekends and days off to learn norwegian and decided to leave everything in 2021, to go in norway: a country where work-life balance is the most important aspect of work, and where it's badly seen to over-work. A country where people are among the happiest on earth, where there are beautiful landscapes, a lot of activities to do, where people are at home at 4 pm. A country where I feel like I can evolve, that have low insecurity, low unemployment, good health care, no debt...

In 5 months of language learning, I didn't reach fluency yet, but I understand most of what I read/hear, and I can make myself understood.
Now, I'm hoping everything will work as intended, but it's worth taking a risk. In the worst case scenario, I come back home to live with my parents for some time, to make other plans. But I'll still be leaving this job and country anyway.

I encourage you to pursue your dreams, and to accept some changes. Don't let your life be a nightmare, have plans, try new
things, take risks.

I still have no idea what job I'll do though. Tourism seems like a branch in which I can enter easily, as I'm a polyglot.
But the job I'm currently doing is so diverse in its tasks that it can probably help me get something else easily. I'll try.

Bros, your words are going so well. There is a lot of antropology in what you are saying. I reccomend toread some text, in english-lenguaje countries are very recognised antropologist and bibliography, you must read some of them! check out kottak!.
then... This is a social problem, really hard to endure, but beter times are arriving, continue with your dreams.

I feel you, I'm in the same position, when I try to stop gaming it get's replaced with binge watching series on netflix, streams on twitch or something else, you get the Idea. This lead to ignoring the rest of my life (expect for work, kind of strange, hm?) and acculating a huge amount of debt over the course of years. Furthermore I'm a master in postponing things and at the moment it feel like I can't really get my life together,

If anyone has an idea to solve this I'd more then welcome.

i have had the same feeling for a while, im thinking of making meditation a thing and try to start from there @azerty54

Sometimes drastic actions must be taken to see results - getting rid of a gaming computer is a big step! If you ever feel comfortable getting back into gaming, try searching for games that come in Norwegian. I have been playing games that I am familiar with in Spanish as a way to pick up some vocab.

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This point is very important. Having a goal to work towards makes the every day work that you put in have a purpose! Give yourself some drive to keep going when you know your effort is getting you closer to your goal.

Hi! Listen, this information is exactly what I needed, I was just struck with ideas, thank you!